Valentine's Day Rant..........

Ladies and Gentlemen, Valentine's Day is not just another day created by the Hallmark Company to sell more cards and chocolates; it's a day where romantics are given the opportunity to do the amazing to prove their love to one another. When men are confronted with being romantic they tend to side with material items and equate love to a price tag. Women on the other hand prefer more spontaneous and extraordinary moments that they can share with their loved one. So how do we get these two perspectives to meet?

Men need to understand that it's not how deep your pocket is, it's how deep your kisses, passion and affection impact her. Forget the expensive dinner, the box of chocolates, and the dozen roses. Take their breath away. Do something out of the norm from daily life. Women love spontaneity; unplanned affection that doesn't have to be scheduled in a blackberry is a good start. The best suggestion is to plan something that doesn't seem as though it's been planned. Make the moment seem spontaneous to them. Bring back the magic of the first date. If possible, return to the place of your first date. Woman want to be reminded that you love them but they want that first kiss again that reminds them why they fell in love with you. The best way to describe this is a quote from the film Hitch "Life isn't about how many breaths you take, it's the moments that take your breath away". Simply put, be creative with your giving and you will be surprised by her response and physical reaction.

Women need to understand not to set expectations for Valentine's Day. Setting expectations only ruins the possibility for spontaneity. However, at the same time don't give up the desire to be swept off your feet. Be receptive to men if they probe for information, they are showing interest and are trying to do something special. Don't play hard to get or be obnoxious to get what you want. The more complaints a man hears about being romantic or spontaneous, the more prone he is to reject being them. Don't forget that Valentine's Day is for him as well. A backrub or breakfast in bed is always a nice way to start the day. If the day gets started on the right foot the likelihood for a wonderful evening is increased. Just remember that not all men are romantics and some need inspiration, guidance, or a nudge in the right direction. Sometimes helping them will ultimately help you.

Now I’m no matchmaker, relationship therapist, professed Dr. Phil wannabe, I’m simply a man who’s learned from past mistakes. Trust me; not being creative, thoughtful and passionate on Valentine’s Day could impact you for months to come.

Two days remain till you either have the best Valentine’s Day of your life or you fail miserably, your choice gents…

And yes I know this was an odd posting for an MMA blog, but it may educate both sexes and prevent ruining someone's weekend...

Kind regards,

The Passionate partner of STEP IN GEAR